We all have a dream. For some of us it’s to climb a mountain, a chance to pit our wits against nature itself. For others it is to get that dream job, dream house or simply to watch our football team win, well, anything.
However, there are those out there who prefer to perform just outside the conscious playground of the rest of the world, those who are happy to play and equally happy for nobody to know how good they are at what they do…
It is for you, that I provide these powerful, covert hypnosis tricks to actually get your mates to start liking your team and eventually to be able to illicit real-life, full on emotional buttons that create the feeling of support, of love even, for a particular word, phrase or action.
I know, I know, it sounds incredible, yet it is something I use every day in the therapeutic home of hypnosis. Some simple methods, which over time will be able to confuse and bewilder the most solid of fans.
We start with something called ‘anchoring’.
Anchoring is one of the most powerful and easy to use skills you can gain from hypnosis and NLP and basically it is the means through which we can ‘anchor a response to a stimulus’. So, through enticing certain emotional responses, and then by repeatedly ‘anchoring’ them to a word or action (perhaps the squeeze of a shoulder or the shake of a hand) it is eventually possible to cause the mind to attribute the stimulus with the emotional response.
To give you a good idea of how this would work in therapy, we can look at smoking cessation. One of the things people worry about most when wanting to quit smoking is that they will become short-tempered, stressed, agitated, etc. All valid responses and all things we would rather avoid, therefore making smoking acceptable to the person despite its many downsides.
What we do in a hypnotherapy session, in part, is to purposefully ignite feelings of calm, of clarity. We would remember successes from your life, we would bring all those feelings to the forefront and, just as those peeked, we would create a ‘calm-anchor’ where we would create a trigger to instantly bring all those good feelings to the forefront. By repeating this, by compounding and intensifying the trigger and response, eventually we have a way of feeling instantly calm, instantly clear.
This means that those feelings and thoughts of irritation that arise when we quit smoking can be pretty much non-existent as now, if they do occur, by simply activating the calm-anchor those feelings are instantly released and overpower the previous irritations and stresses.
So, as many dating gurus will tell you; we can take this principle and start to bring different feelings in people through a trained response.
STEP 1: Find your target and listen carefully to what they are saying and how they are emotionally responding. If you have not read the previous blog on ‘The Top Five Ways To Win A Football Argument’ then may I suggest you take a quick look, especially the section about rapport. The more the person’s subconscious trusts you; the better the results.
STEP 2: Start to elicit emotions from your target. So, initially you are looking to ask leading questions, things that you know will create an emotional response, questions that cannot be answered by a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’. In this instance we want positive feelings and emotions; so ask general questions about something you know they already enjoy.
Using football as our example here, you can ask questions such as ‘What was your favorite moment in football?’ ‘Where are your favorite seats at the home-ground and why?’ ‘Describe how it felt when you went to your home-ground the first time’. ‘Why do you support your team?’ and so on…
The point behind these questions is that they are easy to answer and they target very specific feelings that they have about their team. These aren’t just mild feelings, they are tribal, deep and important, so ask questions which are as personal as possible, to create the real feelings of attachment. Also remember that this is not a debate, you are not trying to convince them of anything – in fact you want them as emotional about their team as possible. We want tears, we wants speeches, we want as much as you can get.
STEP 3: So, now that you are getting these emotions it’s time to anchor them. There are no limits as to how you do this, just be ethical and safe and you will be able to have much fun.
So, if you want them to start to attribute these feelings, to displace them, you must have a trigger.
Some people squeeze a shoulder. This is particularly effective as it uses definite touch, in a place we are not used to being handled, yet it is completely acceptable place to be touched and doesn’t really cause any discomfort.
It works by purposefully touching/ squeezing the shoulder as you notice the person is really feeling the emotion. So, as your pal tells you of the time his team almost won the FA Cup, of the battle, the pride, and those tears well up in his eyes, lean over and encourage him, and squeeze that shoulder. Do it over and over again.
Eventually, and it depends on how well you anchor these feelings, you will be able to squeeze your mates shoulder and return him to this state at any time.
When you consider replicating this state while talking about your team, he will be confused but certainly feeling all the feelings he had for his team, when speaking about yours.
You can use any anchors/ triggers for this. You could use a phrase, simply repeat it every time they are feeling emotional. Alternatively, simply rub the badge on your shirt. Do it discreetly, so that they notice but only on the outskirts of their consciousness.
Eventually their mind will attribute your action, the squeeze of a shoulder, the touch of a badge, the mention of a phrase or word, maybe a ring tone on your phone, to the feelings and they will automatically feel exactly as you want them to, and from there you can take them any where you want and before you know it they will be defending your team and maybe even starting to find themselves really liking them.
In the next blog we will examine ‘covert hypnosis’ and more specifically, hidden commands. These are phrases which, when hidden in a sentence are unrecognisable to the conscious mind yet fully heard by the subconscious.